In 2024, this guy chatted me up on X and we got talking.
And normally, I’m a fine girl… so I knew he came because he saw what he liked cause i posted mostly my best pictures on X.
But in real life, I was battling severe inflammatory acne, so when this guy told me he would like to meet me in person, my heart was beating faster than normal.
I know how people stare at me when I'm in public and the audacious negative things wrapped as concern that I hear cause of my face.
So I felt like...“Oh my God! he’s going to see me in real life! face to face! flaws and all!"
The acne on my face made me feel self conscious so imagine being seen by this guy that I had already started liking.
So what did I do to ease my worry?
I used my mouth to communicate. I told him about my face and how it made me feel. I sent him pictures of my real face and made video calls.
But to be honest, the worry was still there. I felt the video call didn’t do justice to how my face was, and I was still kind of believing this my guy would lose interest if he sees me flesh to flesh.
We fixed a date to meet.
On the D-day, I wished I could wear makeup, but makeup would only make my face react more, so I just added my lip gloss and mascara.
When we met, I couldn’t stop myself from laughing, I was so excited inside.
I was particularly delighted that this guy traveled all the way from Lagos to Awka just to meet me. I felt like that girl!
When I saw how this guy dressed, all my embarrassment and anxiety disappeared.
“What is he wearing!” I couldn’t hold my laughter.
“Your dress sense is horrible. Who wears black socks with wine-colored open-toe palms on blue jean trousers?”
We both clicked like we’d known each other for ages.
“See my babe… you’re so fine, you’re even finer in person.”
I was just blushing. I believed he was whining me, but I liked it🥴😅
And that was how all my worry about my acne face disappeared.
Everything happened so fast, now I’m married to this same guy, and it only gets better.
We are trying solutions, but from a place of no pressure, rather for self-care and healthier skin.
I’m sharing this story from my PPA, and I remembered how I used to worry so much about finding love because of my acne-filled face, so I decided to encourage you…
You may have insecurities and worry about your body too, but remember, the right person will not make them the most important thing about you.
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